Why You Shouldn't Give Your Ex Another Chance  

Giving your ex another chance in your life is a personal decision. But if you ask me, I will advise that you should never give your ex another chance. I will tell you why.

When you are dating someone, and by dint of hard luck or something unexplainable, you break up, you should never consider them back in your life.  

There are instances that you may consider them back. Some of your partners might leave you based on pressure from their families. So when the family finally agrees to your relationship, you have a good reason to accept them back.

But when her breaking up with you was as a result of her negligence, please be mindful of her plans of coming back into your life. 

Without much ado, let's look at some of the reasons why you should never accept your ex back.

You Don't know Their Intentions 

The first reason why you should not have your ex back in your life is the uncertainties around their intentions. You are unsure of their motives for trying to get back to you, and for that reason you should be careful.

She might be harbouring bad intentions and wants to come back and probably continue her unfinished business in your life. 

The fact is that, you cannot exactly tell why she is coming back to you. To be on the safer side, you must not make the mistake of allowing her into your life.

They Are Disappointed by Those They Thought Were Better Than You 

Another possible reason why your ex will want to come back to you is because she has been disappointed by those she thought were better than you. 

When you have a girl who jilted you for someone else thinking that they are better than you, you should know that such a girl is not really into you.  

She is hanging around for the benefits she will get from you. Trust me, her loyalty is to the benefits and not pure love. She will leave you again when she finds someone better.

Do not make a mistake. She is not a good girl and her coming back into your life is not for anything good. 

Repeat Patterns

An ex who wants to come back to your life might act changed, but inwardly, she is still the girl that you knew long time ago. 

She has not really changed and will continue with the attitude that made you break up in the first place. There will be repeated patterns of bad behavior and attitude that you cannot cope with.

You will finally break up again if you give her a chance. This will amount to wasting your time with the same girl on multiple occasions.  

You could have used those times to do something better with your life, probably building a new relationship with a different girl.

You made the mistakes in the first instance, and must be learning some lessons. Those lessons should be your guiding principles in dating.

Trust Issues

There will always be trust issues when you finally come back to your ex. As mentioned in point one, her motives of coming back to you is unknown and you cannot really tell why she wants a second chance.

You will then be treading cautiously knowing that she might not be a changed person after all. 

You will be afraid to trust her again as she is likely to break the trust along the way. Protect your inner peace by staying clearly off your ex's intentions of coming back into your life.  

Emotional Turmoil

Getting back with your ex can stir up your emotions. The memories of how she treated you before leaving will keep haunting you.

Your emotions will always run wild anytime you remember the ordeal she made you pass through. She will be doing same or not is something you can't really tell.

If you want proper peace of mind where your emotions are not stirred up by the sight of someone you used to love, you must create a distance between the two of you. 

Other Options

Why will you even consider taking your ex back when you have numerous options available to you? It's not worth it, if you asked me. 

There are a good number of good girls out there who will make you their all-in-one. You must not waste your precious time on your ex when you can get better replacement for her.  

Dependency

Your ex probably wants a second chance because life has not treated her fairly after leaving you. Bills and other demands are making her to consider getting back to you so that she can depend on you for certain favors.

You are someone who also have purpose for your money. Concentrate on that and stop wasting it on someone who looked at you in the face and told you she doesn't love you any longer. 

Conclusion 

Whiles getting back to your ex is completely a personal experience where no one can really tell, it is a dangerous idea to accept them back. 

No matter the amount of love you have for her, you should always think twice before making a decision. Most at times, those who get back to their exes end up breaking up again.

Do not go through the cycle of multiple breakups with one girl when there are many other doors wide open for you.