Mistakes to Avoid When You Start Dating  

There are some mistakes that men make when they first start dating. These makes sometimes lead to problems in the relationship, especially, when they decide to get married. 

It is therefore, important to learn from the mistakes of those who have come before you. This is the reason why we are putting together this article to help you know some of these common mistakes and how to avoid them.

It is not a crime to make mistakes, but it is a crime when you do not learn from your mistakes or that of those who have come before you.

After discovering the mistakes, you will be able to avoid them when you also start dating. You can also get back and start all over again when you initially fell in those pits. 

Well, like stated, no one is immune to making mistakes. It takes a strong person to make mistakes and easily get over them. Without further ado, let's get started.

Jealousy and Possessiveness

The first mistake that many people, especially men make when they start dating is jealousy and possessiveness. They try to control the girl that they are dating so much that she begins to feel intimidated in the relationship.

It is normal to feel uneasy when you first enter into a relationship with a girl. You are too protective of your space and doesn't want any guy to come closer to her. This can be detrimental to the health of your young relationship.

You need to suppress the urge to be overly possessive and have some little bit of liberal mindset. Do not go about trying everything to be seen as the boss at the initial stages of the relationship.

Doing so will make your girl lose interest in the relationship quite early. She is likely to back off, if you are not careful with such behavior.  

Trying to Change Your Partner

Some people make the mistake of trying to change their partners to suit how they want them to be. This is just impossible. It is very difficult to change the behavior and attitude of a full grown adult, especially at the initial stages of dating them. 

Knowing too well that the girl you are falling for, has some attitudes and lifestyles that you abhor, and still go ahead to enter into a relationship with them with the hope of changing them is just practically impossible.

You need to learn how to live with those attitudes you find unattractive or you don't even start a relationship with them in the first place.  

So, as a young guy who is planning on starting a relationship, look for someone who have the kind of traits that you will love to see in a partner. 

Do not settle for someone thinking that you can change them. It will be a Herculean task and you might not even stand a chance of succeeding. 

Moving too Fast

Relationships take time to build. When you start dating, some people make the mistake of rushing things. They quickly introduce themselves to their respective families.

Some also decide to get engaged in the first month of dating and possibly move in as couples within two months of knowing each other. This is totally wrong. 

Majority of those who do this end up divorcing their partners some few years into the marriage. You do not have ample time to study your partner for compatibility reasons.

A life-long affair such as marriage should never be rushed. You have to take things slowly and gradually grow in love with the fellow before taking them to your house as a partner. 

During this period, you can learn a lot about your partner in terms of her attitude, character, behavior, likes and dislikes, social ideologies, religious beliefs and so on. This will inform your final decision. 

You should avoid this mistake of rushing things when you first start dating. Do not make such a big mistake. It is not a good thing in relationships. 

Comparing to Exes

Another mistake that guys make when they are in a relationship is they try to compare the new girl to some of their exes. This is bad and you should not do it. 

Girls are naturally jealous and they will easily get pissed off when you try to compare them to your exes. They might get angry and also begin to compare you to the guys who dated them before you.

In the end, you will see that the comparison and counter comparisons are not helping matters. 

Comparing your new girlfriend to your ex can also lead to suspicions. She will begin to suspect that you still have something doing with your ex, a reason why you can't stop talking about her. 

There is nothing to gain from comparing your girl to your exes, it will only lead to problems. Do not do it, if you truly love her. 

Not Integrating into Each Other's Lives

This is one of the mistakes some people make in the early stages of their relationships and it goes to affect them in the long run. 

You should not isolate your life from that of your partner to the extent that you look like parallel people. It will appear that you have nothing in common and this will lead to disinterest from the girl or from both of you. 

Avoiding Difficult Conversations

Too much love can blind you to the truth about your partner. When you start dating, you should not be too afraid to discuss some of the most uncomfortable things about the relationship.

Discussions around number of children, life ambitions, position on some of the most tricky ideologies of the world among others should not be overlooked.  

Have that confidence to discuss matters affecting you personally. If you postpone such discussions, it might affect you one day in the relationship.

Conclusion 

Making these mistakes in the early stages of your dating will be highly toxic to your relationship in the long run. 

You need to avoid them and prepare yourself well for a future of marriage where happiness and joy will be the common things.