How to Know if You Are Being Treated as An Option  

In a relationship, there are times that you will be wondering if how you see yourself in the relationship is truly who you are.

Because, you might be feeling that you are in love with someone but in reality the fellow is not really in love with you.

This is the case that we say you are not being prioritized in this relationship. Your partner is treating you as an option instead of a priority. 

It is very common to see some men invest so much time and energy in building a relationship with a girl only to later find out that the girl has different options elsewhere. 

This kind of shock has put a lot of men in positions that have compromised their sanity. They act highly insane after discovering they were treated as an option all that while.  

Do not be taken by surprise, learn about the signs that you are being treated as an option in the article here. 

Let us now get into the details of some of the signs to know that you are an option in your relationship. 

Lack of Communication

The first sign is lack of proper communication in the relationship. The efforts to communicate and to plan about the future is always from you and she doesn't have any interest in such conversations.

She is vague when it comes to discussing the future of the relationship. She acts indifferent, signalling that the relationship can even end that very moment, she will have no regrets.

When you realize that your girlfriend is not that communicative in the relationship even though she has time for other people and things, then it means you are not her priority.  

People will always make time for those they love. If they love you, they will be there for you and will always want to be communicating with you. 

Inconsistent Behavior 

A girl who is treating you as an option will always portray an inconsistent behavior. They decide on when to love you and when not to show you love.

They can be showing you love in one moment and the next moment, they are distancing themselves from you. They are not very consistent in their words and actions. 

They choose when to love you when it is convenient for them,  and decide when to just ignore you completely when it suits them. This kind of inconsistent behavior is just one of the signs that you are an option in the relationship. 

Prioritizing Others

When you are treated as an option, you will find your partner having time for others and other things to the neglect of you.  

She consistently prioritizes other people or activities over spending time with you. They may cancel plans or make excuses for not being available when you need them, indicating that you're not their top priority.

Arrange a date with them and they will decline it at the last minute without feeling remorseful about how you may feel. The truth is that, your happiness does not matter to them.

One-Sided Effort

When you are the only one who is pushing to make the relationship work, then it means you are being treated as an option. When it comes to communication, you are the only one pushing it. 

You might feel like you're the one putting in more effort into the relationship while your partner seems indifferent or unwilling to invest the same level of time, energy, or commitment.

They give you all manner of excuses just to avoid you in their lives. This is not a good behavior in a relationship. It only signifies one thing: you're an option and not their priority. 

Lack of Future Plans

When your partner is making plans for the future, she hardly includes you, then you are not the one she wants to spend her future with. 

Same way when you invite her to join you in a discussion bordering on the future of both of you together, she hardly makes her inputs. She feels indifferent and not bothered about what want to make of the future with her. 

She has her mind elsewhere and you are not part of the future she's planning. Save yourself some energy by looking elsewhere for those who will love you genuinely. 

Limited Emotional Support

Another sign that you are treated as an option is that your partner never gives you the emotional support you need in your times of going through problems.

They may not offer you the support you need from a partner to be able to pull through the situation. Instead, they may even belittle your efforts and rubbishing the severity of what you are going through. 

You need a partner who is empathetic and will offer you a support when you are down. Any lady who prioritize you will always want to see you happy. 

Ignoring Boundaries 

A girl who doesn't prioritize you will break every rule that you set for her in order to make the relationship work. 

She will intentionally do the things that you clearly told her not to do with the intention of hurting your feelings just to make you sad.

She cares very little about how you feel. Her feelings and happiness comes first before any other thing. When she needs something from you, she aggressively asks for it and go back to her slumber once you provide her what she needs. 

In this sense, my brother, you are not her priority. You are been used. You should trust your instincts sometimes. Leave her and look elsewhere for other options. 

Conclusion 

Relationships work when there is equal efforts from both partners. But in a situation where only one party is making all the efforts to get things going, the relationship is bound to crash. 

You should never accept to be treated as an option in a relationship. There are many single ladies out there who will make you their everything once you commit yourself to them. Be that kind of guy who looks for a relationship where your partner values you.

You deserve better, that's what I will tell you.